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About Darcy A. Cole
Using her background in health care management, business consulting and
writing, author Darcy A. Cole explores a topic relevant to all couples
involved in long-term relationships: how to rekindle and preserve passion
and sexual desire. Relying on her considerable experience in researching
and acquiring knowledge from state-of-the-art science and adapting it
for practical application by relevant populations, she applies scientific
research, anecdotal evidence, and the personal experiences of couples
of all ages in the development of "Seduce Me! How to Ignite Your
Partner's Passion". The author received her MBA from Northwestern
University's Kellogg Graduate School of Management.
Author Interview
1. What led you to write Seduce Me!?
First, being aware that millions of couples who are committed to their
relationships are looking for answers to the difficulties they've been
experiencing with sexual desire and arousal, and that they aren't finding
any. And second, there is often a gap in information transfer from the
scientific community to the general public. It is common that the scientific
community, through years of research, has answers but that they aren't
communicated to the general public in a way that solutions can be implemented.
I wrote Seduce Me! to bridge that gap - using knowledge from scientific
research to show couples how to activate their body's chemistry to create
desire and passion.
2. Who is Seduce Me! for?
Seduce Me! is primarily for couples who are experiencing - or beginning
to experience - difficulties with sexual desire and passion. This includes
couples with young children, mature couples, and those with very busy
lifestyles. However, even couples that aren't yet experiencing problems
would greatly benefit from learning about the inevitable sexual changes
coming their way and how to prepare for them.
3. What's the most important contribution that Seduce Me! makes?
What's different about Seduce Me!, is that it is intentionally written
in a conversational style that makes it easy to read, absorb, and therefore
be quickly put into practice. It contains a wealth of information, some
of it very technical, yet I've had people tell me they've read it entirely
in one sitting! To me that is great - that means that in one night, a
couple can move from confusion, blame, and fear to understanding, anticipation,
and passion!
4. What was missing in other resources on the topic?
It's not so much that there aren't other very helpful resources, but that
they generally cover one part of the problem, or advocate one type of
solution. With Seduce Me! I tried to cover a broad range of problems and
solutions, while also giving couples a comprehensive list of resources
in case they want to learn about a particular area in depth. Some of my
favorite resources for couples include books by Theresa Crenshaw, Harville
Hendrix, and Don Hicks.
5. What did you find most challenging in researching and writing
Seduce Me!?
My research included a review of over 85 different studies, publications,
video, and electronic resources. And my biggest challenge was in figuring
out what NOT to include in Seduce Me! In my experience, couples are too
busy to sit down and read a 300-page dissertation. My goal was to put
together an informative, valuable resource that would be concise enough
that people would enjoy reading it, yet thorough enough to help the most
couples.
6. What pleases you the most about Seduce Me!?
The response has been truly overwhelming. I've heard readers say everything
from "Wow! I had no idea" to "your book is an epiphany
and it will change people's lives!" Other comments have ranged from
"I wish my ex would have read it" to "it should be a mandatory
gift for nearly every couple!" So far, the day that I heard from
a medical office that they wanted to buy 50 copies for their patients
was probably the most rewarding.
7. What do you hope to accomplish through Seduce Me! — what's
your goal for your readers?
For them to stop blaming themselves and/or their partners because of problems
with sexual desire or arousal. For others to develop and anticipate natural
physiological changes that accompany long-term relationships and implement
practices that can inspire desire and passion naturally.
8. Why do so many couples struggle with something that is supposed
to be pleasurable?
Most things in life get easier over time, so it comes as a surprise to
us when we wake up one day and realize that we just can't get in the mood
for sex as quickly and as easily as we used to. We think that it must
mean that there is something wrong with us or with the relationship, but
there are perfectly normal reasons why these changes take place. And it
can happen regardless of how happy we are or how much we love our partner,
or even, how attracted we are to our partners! The good news though, is
that couples can counteract those changes and experience passion as intensely
as ever.
9. Why an ebook in addition to a paperback edition?
I know for me, when there is something that looks like it will be a great
resource, I want to access the information as quickly as possible - and
an ebook is one way to do that. Through the internet, people from all
over the world can access ebooks. Amazingly we've had website visitors
from over 30 different countries!
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