Seductions

There are several ways to stimulate the biochemical changes that boost our desire for sex. One of the most fun and easiest is to act out seductive role plays. These help us create the kinds of visual, emotional, and physical cues that trigger desire.

It's important to understand though that not all scenarios are helpful to all couples; that is why it isn't a good idea to just randomly pick a couple of characters and act out a role play. For instance, if a drained woman is needing a boost to her libido, then having her act out a strip-tease will likely be more of a turn-off for her than a turn-on. Instead, couples need to tailor them to their particular needs and desires, by determining which types of scenarios work for you.

Here is a sample seductive role-play that couples have found effective because it reverses the typical "male aggressor" and "female resistor" roles. The key is for him to be very slow to convince, i.e., the more the man resists her overtures, the more the woman becomes free to tease and seduce.

Lonely Widow and Shy Handyman
She is the attractive widow who's looking for some attention. He's the shy handyman who comes to put up her drapes and install some shelves. She's a bit of an exhibitionist, and he's having a hard time focusing on the tasks at hand. He knows that he should maintain a professional relationship with her so he keeps trying to resist her hints and teases. After a couple of hours of her advances though, he starts to reconsider.

Another type of seductive role-play is effective for helping couples to communicate their personal likes and dislikes in a non-threatening manner. In these, one plays a very inexperienced lover, and the other takes on the role as instructor.

Sex Therapist
He's been avoiding having girlfriends because he feels inadequate in the bedroom. She's a professional sex therapist who works with him to improve his self-esteem. She shows him several different ways to pleasure a woman in a detailed step-by-step manner, while demonstrating the physical cues that a woman's body gives as she becomes aroused.

Pay attention to situations you find in movies, books, or even from your past that have caused sparks of desire in you. See Chapters 4 and 5 for more libido triggers!

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